Every day we make promises either to ourselves or to others, but often we failed to fulfil our promises. WHY?

There are many reasons why we fail to fulfil our promises but in this post i'll talk about three most important reasons.
:1MOTIVE :2 PROCRASTINATION and :3 CHANGES.

Considering those three points and how your unfulfilled promises affects you and others might just add some good atitude in you. Now lets start with Motive.

MOTIVE: There is a motivating force behind every single promises you made to yourself and others. Could be good or bad and so is the final result. Promise made with the wrong motive is more likely to fail. You may have or have been promised what you don't have at the moment, either you are expecting something or just to win favour. When your expectations become unrealistic so will your promise, and when you get favoured hadly you will fulfil your promise. Thats wrong motive. Try avoiding this. Promise what is on your reach and don't expect something in return, that is true generosity. It build confidence and trust in you, and above all it makes you feel better and healthier phycologically.

PROCRASTINATION: It's easy to imagin how procrastination makes you fail to fulfil your promises. It's often with the right motive that you made this promises but just because you allowed a lot of time to pass, or your aren't fast enough to figure out when is best to fulfil your promises you fail. But how? This example might help answer that question: You promise some kids to buy them ball, you have all it takes to fulfil your promise but just because you waited too long another kind soul donated his ball to this kids, even if you letter fulfil your promise it wouldn't be valued as it would if you were faster and you are likely to be disappointed.
Try avoiding this pitfall when you make promises because if you ever procrastinate in your promise you may loss the joy that comes from giving.

CHANGE: The last of the three but the one you must struggle more to overcome. Change they said is constant, so there will alwasy be changes. Jumping through this hurddle in your promises is never easy thats why it comes last.

There are two kind of changes that affect the fulfilment of your promises.
1. Your actions: It's too easy to make promises, you can make hundreads of promises a day. But when you make many promises you are changing the posibility of fulfilling any. It's just like a kid trying to copy note for all his classmate, he'd be better copying just for one than when he have 30 or more, he'll end up copying non. So are your promises, avoid making too many promises so that you will have the ability to fulfil. Know that the more you increase your promises thats how the possibility of disappointing increases.
2. Unexpected circumstances: This overtakes your promises with the speed of light. Put yourselve in the shoe of a worker who earns comfortably monthly, and after covering all your expenses you still have enough leftovers to help others and so you promise to train the child of an oldie in school, but before you could make a start your job was lost, how sad! Everyone knows that you can't fulfil your promise anymore, but will you be satisfied at that? No, never. Why not make a little compensation with the savings you still have? You will be relieved if you just hire a private tutor for this kid even if it's just for a year or some good number of months will be enough to bring you a relieve. Think about the fine reputation you'll earn afterwards. So whenever you make a promise and experience this kind of change try your best to make amend. The little you give to compensate have a greater and lasting value.

But it's not that easy to fulfil your promises expecially when its hard for you. But think about how people will feel when you disappoints them. Remembering the last time you were badly disappointed might help you fulfil any promise and avoid hurting  someone.

Learn to say NO when you can't, that's humility. It's better than saying YES and disappoint because of pride.

Fulfil every promises you made today and before adding more to avoid hurting others.

Learn to compesate for your disappointment no matter how had it might be.

The faster you act on your promises the better chance you stand to fulfil it.

Hope this help!
Thanks for reading...

SOURCE: FUNDEAL.ML

Last edited by Cally (30th Apr 2019 10:41 pm)